Monday, August 8, 2016

Individual difference

Living in independent houses has their share of problems and also living in apartments has their share of problems.
Independent houses without any security are easy targets for robbers. The owner has to do all maintainence himself. Sometimes he finds it difficult to get elecricians and plumbers.Pets and plants are the worse hit. Some people may arrange but it gets too expensive and also there is the question of safely.
In apartments, everything is taken care of by the people arranged by the society.
The problem arises due to some people who wants everything to be perfect for them but hesitates when money matters arise.
Some people fail to give maintenance money monthly, do not contribute for repair works and talks 19 to the dozen making excuses. They are not friendly and stays aloof.
It should be understood that when living in a society it is better to be friendly with everyone especially your neighbours. One does not know when their help is needed.
If the owner wants to have a perfect house, he should be willing to pay like others or face the consequences.
What is the use of education if one does not behave like a social being

Saturday, August 6, 2016

The Story of Suicide review

The Story of a Suicide" is a gripping novel that tells the stories of Hari, Charu, Sam and Mani, whose lives are interconnected in a web of love, passion, revenge and deceit. 

The author's imagination is worth mentioning.
The meeting of Caesar with Draupadi and Hari meeting the little Hanuman who offered him a buiscuit is really appealing.

I imagined the scenes of Caesar meeting Draupadi and the little Hanuman meeting Hari and thought them to be real.

The quoted lines, Haridas was a labourer who did odd jobs for the men of the upper castes, but was subjected to humiliation and discrimination by them during most part of the year. He lived in abject poverty. During the Theyyam festival he would mystically transform himself as Goddess ‘Bhagavathy’ and perform the ‘Theyyam’ dance, a form of devotional storytelling and dance every night for a month. He would be treated as an ‘avatar’ and the entire village, from the rich to the poor, would fall at his feet and ask for his blessings", proves the hypocricy of the elite.
They fail to understand that god dwells in the poor even if they do not perform any dance style to be treated as avatars.
It reminds me of the dalits who are scorned and when it comes to raping dalit women, the upper caste people overlook their untouchability. Real heights of hypocricy.
The end seemed improper to me.
Hari should have fought and won instead of committing suicide.
The author has set a wrong example for other teenagers.
There are lots of instances where a person wanting to commit suicide has a change of heart and through sheer will power come up in life even at a later stage in life.
An example is  Mr. Kentucky, owner of Ketucky Fried Chicken who after many upheavels in life and many suicide attempts founded KFC at the age of 65.
I appreciate author Sriram Iyer's attempt in writing this novel.
He has shown his descriptive side. Good description of nature and mood of characters.
I feel writing should have been without any abusive language and description. I did not like the usage , 'Mother Fuckers'.
I don't recommend this book for teenagers as it will set a wrong example.
Suicidal tendency has to be curbed through proper channelling.
Reading stories about people who have overcome such feelings and leading wonderful lives should be examples.
Suicide is not the way out.
The person who commits suide may escape, but what about the family he leaves behind. Think about them, their sacrifices to nurture you.
The four friends Hari, Charu, Sam and Mani should have experienced life more, learnt from experience and understood how beautiful life is.
If people with disabilities can strive to succeed in life why should abled bodied people lose hope and think of suicide.
If one door closes another opens.
Death should not be our choice, it is God who decides. So live and wait for God's decision regarding life and death.
I end with these lines- 
असतोमा सद्गमय ।
तमसोमा ज्योतिर् गमय ।
मृत्योर्मामृतं गमय ॥
ॐ शान्ति शान्ति शान्तिः 
From ignorance, lead me to truth;
From darkness, lead me to light;
From death, lead me to immortality
Om peace, peace, peace Review

Wednesday, August 3, 2016

On Parents and Children

What parents set as example, children learn. If parents set good examples, children behave accordingly. But all depends on how God wants it to be. There are good and honest parents with wicked and sinful children. But as parents, it is their duty to set good examples and for the children to take it or not is their concern. Some children hate the advices given but will surely learn or already learnt when they are taught a lesson or going to be taught a lesson. ill treating parents is one of the worst crimes.Parents sacrifice so much in bringing up their children.
Children taking care of a parent or parents when they are penniless is very rare.
There are children who praise parents sky high to get public praise, shower their love and respect on parents' photos hanging on walls when in real life parents are scorned and not given any respect.
Some even shamelessly say that a mother taking care of her children is because it is her duty. Some daughters believe that a mother's place is with her son, she should live with her sons and not daughters. Why such narrow mindedness when a mother is the same for both son and daughter.
There are parent/parents sometimes having to separate to stay with their children to adjust to their children's whims and fancies.Did parents anytime separate children thinking they are a burden?
Parent/parents may sometimes be nagging, unadjusting and creating problems. Children too would have been the same, but parents bore it. Why can't children? A mother however nagging or cruel she is is after all a mother. Even a whore is in that profession to take care of her children's needs.
Her children should give her the due respect and not scorn her for what she does. There are children whose ego does not allow them to adjust with their mothers. There are children who take off all the possessions of their parents and abandon them. They should remember they too have children. Good deed begets good deed. There are grand-children who adore grand parents and grand-children who along with their parents humilate their grand parents. Life is a vicious circle, bad deeds are like a boomerang, it will return back. There are a few children who take care of a parent/parents not expecting anything. The parent may have given all her possession to her child as it may be in dire strait' In spite of it, the child does not show interest in taking care of her in old age. There are daughters and noble hearted sons-in-law who take care of mothers even without expecting anything from her. Inhuman people may talk a dozen things saying she is being taken care of because of her property when in reality she is penniless.How can children who neglect parents live without their conscience pricking them? Such children are surely leading hypocritical and artificial lives. Parents' blessings are the true form of blessings. Even if they are not good parents, the children need not behave like them. Then there will be no difference. You will be setting a very bad example to the growing children. This way there will be no goodness left on earth. There may be squabbles and fights between mother and daughter, but in the end she has to rest assured that she is being taken care of in spite of everything and has a home and not spend her life in any old age home.
Adjusting is life. If everyone can adjust in any circumstance without grumbling, life can be smooth sailing.