Thursday, June 1, 2017

Mental Ourpouring

a beloved departs
to find solace from all suffering
leaves behind loved ones
to suffer.

Sunday, May 21, 2017

Friced rice incident

Remembered a funny incident when I took over charge of kitchen as a newly married.
I opened all masala boxes and shocked to see the contents. All were worm infested. Opened the rice container and it too was full of worms. When I asked Venu whether he knew what food he was consuming as everything was full of worms. Venu just said when one can have prawn fried rice why not poka (worm in Bengali) fried rice.
Will really miss this witty man.
Venu will remain evergreen in my memory


Our marriage as fixed. One day, along with my sister we went to watch a Malayalam movie. The show was houseful. We were standing depressed not knowing what to do when I saw my knight in shining armor walking towards us. He flourished two tickets in front of us and told us to accept it. We thanked him profusely.
On reaching the alloted seats, my sister noticed Venu coming and quickly exchanged our seats so that her seat was next to Venu.
Later Venu said he felt like killing my sister for her act and had kept watching me and not the movie.
Then came to know from Venu's brother that Venu seeing us standing so forlorn had snatched his brother's and his friend's tickets and given us and the poor things had to go without seeing the movie.
He said after getting married he was not interested in seeing Malayalam movies as he had already got a wife, so there was no need to ogle at ladies anymore.
Venu always joked that whenever Anu scolded Pravin, he would sit in the balcony as he didn't want neighbors to think, his wife was scolding him.
Another post in memory of my beloved venu. Memories running out. Have to think hard for more incidents.
I had gone to pick up Pravin when he was studying in LKG.
I befriended a Bengali lady whose son too was studying with Pravin. We became very friendly. I told her Pravin's father was in Dubai.
One day I was waiting for Pravin and suddenly hear a loud voice calling out in Bengali,' Oh to ye ki Probiner baba? which meant oh, so is this Pravin's father?
I panicked not knowing what she meant and chanced to see a really handsome, tall, fair young sardar with googgles on.I had not realized that I was standing close to him. and exclaimed that he was not the father.
Wonder what the sardar thought.
I narrated the incident to Venu and he found it amusing.
While moving to Chennai, I came to know that a sardar was opening a school (Anna Adarsh) close to where we Annanagar, Shanthi Colony.
Venu immediately shot back. ' I am sure the sardar followed you to Chennal and opened a school here'.
Venu always worried how I would survive without him. Have to show him that I will survive and fulfill his desires. I am sure he is watching down on me and blessing me.
The only solace, I took great care of him till he breathed his last and also received his blessings when alive. He would say that even he would not have been able to take care of me as I cared for him if I was in his place and that he was blessed to have me for his wife. Food for the soul I did not break down or shed tears initially but tried my best to revive him knowing well it was not possible. God surely gives courage in times of need. I will live and make him smile from above.

Friday, May 19, 2017

Unforgettable moments

While in Delhi, I bought some eggs from the store. On checking, I chanced to see that one of the eggs was shapeless. I told the shopkeeper to replace it. He should have been polite enough to do so. Instead he went on to say that he did not lay the egg, the hen did and so on. I got infuriated and told him I will  a fight because of an egg. It was not the question of an egg, I wanted to teach him a lesson because of his impudent behavior.

I got infuriated and told him I will return again with my husband as soon as he returned from office. Maybe, the shopkeeper did not take it seriously thinking no man in his senses will think of coming for a fight because of an egg. It was not the question of an egg, I wanted to teach him a lesson because of his impudent behavior.
As soon as Venu returned from office I told him he must come with me immediately to the store. Venu tried his best to calm me down, finally decided to accompany me to the store.
The storekeeper did not except this and was very cordial to Venu saying he can take an exchange egg and whatever he wanted, face full of smiles. I think anyone who sees Venu forget their anger. Venu the real charmer.

Venu was a very good exchange master. Once having bought a sari from Nalli, Chennai, I wanted to change it and told Venu so.
We went to Nalli and gave the sari for exchange. While examining the salesman noticed a very light mud stain and refused to exchange. I badly did want to exchange for a better color.
Always the knight in shining armour, Venu as usual showed hid hreoism, asked for the manager to have a talk and threatened the salesman. The salesman then lay down arms and was willing to exchange the sari.
As it was a rainy season and I was working in a school, I wanted to buy a pair of water proof slippers.
I did wear it for a day and found that the nos on each feet were different. I told Venu I wanted to exchange with the proper size.
Venu was shocked and said since I used it they would not exchange it.
But seeing my forlorn face decided to give it a try and we went again to the Bata shoe shop in Rountana, Annanagar.
Venu did manage to make the salesman agree for an exchange after sometime of talking.

Laugh Gags

Venu invited his very close friend, parents and sisters home for dinner.
Painstalkingly I prepared everything. When no one came, I was upset. Venu then came with a sorry look on his face saying he had forgotten to invite them. He went quite late at night to bring them home so as not to upset me. But they had already had their dinner and just had some food for namesake.
One day Venu said he was inviting his Times of India friends for having idli, sambar and chutney. I had the batter ground and ready for next day. Luckily sambar and chutney were yet to be prepared.
He came home and said no one was coming. My mother had a touch time finishing the wholesale batter.
One day I told Venu I was making idiappam and mutton curry for dinner. Venu was thrilled.
Did not know my method of making idiappam would backfire as it was not made that way. I did become an expert later. I kneaded the rice flour into a dough, took the idiappam stand and tried to press through the holes. The dough refused to come out. I tried with all my strength but no use.
Venu meanwhile was waiting for his mouthwatering dinner. Not seeing it coming, he came to the kitchen to see what the matter was. Both of us tried but failed.
Time was getting late. Saw Venu running out. He returned with the presswala. Both of them tried with all their strength and some amount of idiappam came out.
Then Venu noticed the dhobi waiting at the door not going home. Asked him why and he replied he wanted to try the dish that was so difficult to make.

A Cuttack incident and others

In the early 80s Venu was in Bhubhaneshwar to set up Times of India office. He was to be there for 3 months so he wanted his family with him. Along with my mother and toddler son, we took a train to Bhubhaneshwar. My notion of Bhubhaneswar stuck to cuttack as the station approached usually when we slept when I travelled as a child with my parents from Kolkatta to Chennai and the same train resumed journey after a halt of 3 hrs in Chennai to Kerala. As soon as the train stopped at Cuttack, along with mother and son I got down thinking it to be Bhubhaneshwar. Not seeing Venu to receive us, both of us got really annoyed and started moving towards the exit.
There was a telephone booth, and with the given no. tried contacting Venu. Seeing me worried and angry, the boothwala asked for the no. and immediately said that I had to make a trunk call as the no was not a Cuttack no. I got panicky. A rickhshaw walah who had been noticing everything came to my rescue and said he would drop me to the bus stop plying to Bhubhaneshwar and it would be one and a half hrs.. The journey went on and on and I angrily asked him whether he was taking me to Bhubhaneshwar. After what seemed ages, we boarded the bus helped by the friendly richshaw wala and reached Bhubhaneswar and arrived at the given address to the hotel.
As I was climbing the stairs to go to my room, there was a call at the reception meant for me. It was a call from Venu's boss's wife saying her husband had a dream in which he saw me getting down at Cuttack. I said it really happened.
We were waiting in the room when Venu arrived drenched in sweat and angry. He shouted at me and asked me if I was educated. It so happened that Venu was waiting at Bhubhaneshwar and when enquired the passengers in the couch about us, they said an aged lady, a young lady with a baby had got down at Cuttack. He also said he was to make a police complaint. When I said his boss ( also my father's close friend) saw a dream in which we were getting down at Cuttack, Venu shot back, ' Why should he dream about my wife'.
Venu took me to a restaurant he usually went. The waiter immediately pulled the screen to make the room cozy. Venu said there was no need to pull the screen as the lady was his wife.
This incident took place in Kolkatta in our house. Venu was on tour. A substitute maid was suspected of stealing my gold bangles and a chain and 50 rupee note. Venu on returning said he was not bothered about the gold given by my father but should get back his 50 rupee note which he had earned. People who were there were amused.